We complain when we received bad service. We complain when the boss did not remember our birthdays. We complain when our colleague got a raise and we did not.
The list goes on. Complaining is part of being human but some of us more than the others like to gripe almost about everything, that it becomes a normalcy to them. When I am writing this, I have an image of someone that fits this description. I bet you do the same too. But wait a minute, can this be me?
In a work place where everyone is trying their best to get along with everyone, they will not tell you on the face that you gripe too much and you are annoying.
Let’s do a test. Scan through the statements below - are these responses from your listeners becoming common in your conversations? If yes, you probably have been complaining too much.
1. Since you don’t like your boss so much, have you ever tried to talk to him directly? You really should since it’s affecting you quite a bit…
2. I think these complaints are not going to help much unless you do something about the situation.
3. Ya know, I really gotta run. I’m really late… (after you've poured out your "thoughts")
Oh, there she goes again, why can’t she just quit? This is the reaction in the hearts of your listeners. It affects them without you realizing it.
Complaining too much is a bad habit. And you know the thing about habits - it’s going to take effort to break it. Break it, you must because it’s not only affecting your relationships with your colleagues, it’s also going to hurt your career.
No one likes to work with people that complain too much. It affects your chances of being promoted. It also affects your future career prospects when prospective employers conduct reference checks with people that worked with you before.
Learn to accept that people will let you down and being disappointed is part and parcel of working life (or life, for that matter). Stop the griping and don’t let this bad habit hurt your career!
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